We've all heard the tips and tricks to planning a wedding the right way, and we hear about the rights and wrongs of wedding etiquette all the time, but here's 5 no-no's that you may not know about, but definitely want to avoid!
1. Don't include your registry information on your invitation.
This has always been a huge no-no. Registering for gifts is appropriate, and even expected, but this is a chance to involve parents and friends. Have your mom or bridesmaids spread the word about where you've registered, or opt for creating a wedding website where you can display registry information for your guests. Including that information with your invitation will imply that gifts are somewhat required, and can rub a few guests the wrong way. You don't want people to think that you're expecting more than just their attendance, even though most of your guests will gift you with something anyway.
2. Don't send e-invites.
Let us clear this up a little bit. We don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with e-invites. We live in a very technology-happy society, so many modern weddings will include an electronic wedding invitation. We're not entirely against these, but keep in mind that your 80-year-old grandmother may not appreciate an emailed invitation and an online RSVP process the same way your college buddies will. If you're going to opt for e-invites, find a platform that will allow you to send matching paper invitations to select guests. Older guests will absolutely appreciate this gesture, and you'll still save time and money with your e-invites.
3. Don't skip on feeding your vendors.
This is probably a pretty big pet peeve of some of the vendors you've already hired or plan to hire. If you are serving dinner at your reception, plan with your caterer in advance so that a plate is allotted for each vendor that you've hired. They work all day to make sure everything is set up perfectly for your special day, and they'll be there cleaning up the mess long after you and you're guests have left. Working those long hours can make a person very hungry, especially when the wedding overlaps with lunch or dinner time. Also, specify with your caterer that you want your vendors to receive an actual plate. Sometimes "vendor meals" will already be allotted, but you should ask your caterer what this means specifically. Often, a "vendor meal" ends up being a bag lunch that you would probably see a 2nd grade student taking to school, such as a combination of a two-bite sandwich and some cold veggies. To paint you a very real picture, it isn't pretty to see your vendors hovering in the corner with cold bag lunches, and in all honesty, it will probably not help their hunger pains.
4. Don't have the bachelor/bachelorette party the night before.
I don't care what you read about planning your party for the night before. I don't care if that's when your parents did theirs, or if that's the only night you can go to the club that you're dying to take your bridal party to. Do not plan your bachelor(ette) party the night before your wedding! The last thing you want is half of the bridal party (or even worse the bride or groom!) trying to cope with a hangover or sleep exhaustion when they're supposed to be enjoying the wedding. If the club you're dying for is only an option on Friday nights, then plan your crazy night a week prior. Whatever the case may be, work it out so that you aren't struggling to even exist on your wedding day.
5. Don't skip on the thank you's.
Yes, you must write thank you notes! Your guests spent time and energy dressing up and attending your wedding, and probably contributed a nice gift to your table. Whether you kept their gift or returned it to get the bedspread from Bed, Bath, and Beyond that you actually wanted, you still owe them a thank you for the fact that they thought about you and spent their hard-earned cash. Handwriting your thank you notes is a truly touching gesture, and you should try to mail them all out within three months of the wedding.
Let your guests know that their attendance meant something to you. While you're at it, write a little thank you to your vendors if they did a good job. It'll probably mean even more to them than it does to your guests. Handwritten notes are great for them too, but you could also show your appreciation to them in the form of an online review. Ask the vendor where the best place to write a review for them would be, and then write it! Good reviews are the best advertising a vendor can have, so if they did a good job for you, help them get hired by someone else. Lastly, don't skimp on bridal party gifts and thank you notes/gifts to parents. These are the people who were with you through the whole process, and bridesmaids usually end up spending hundreds of dollars to be a part of your special day. You don't have to buy a $500 gift for all 8 of your bridesmaids, but at least give them a little something to let them know how much you really appreciate all the effort they put in.
Well, there you have it. We promise that if you take our advice and follow these tips your guests, vendors, and bridal party will appreciate being a part of your special day so much more, and that should make you even happier! Got any more do's and don't's you think we should add? Let us know in the comment section below!